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RE RE evaluating my Life

When I originally started this blog my intentions were pretty much to have a super fantastic blog that allowed me to share MY thoughts, My feelings, and MY experience with hair, fashion and in general 1 GENERAL "niche".    Every great net worker or blogger alike agreed that it's important to have a niche for your audience and that being to vague or too random would cause you to lose your audience.  Well it couldn't be more FARTHER or Further (you pick which one is grammatically correct)  from who I am.  I hate to sound cliche but...I AM NOT my hair, or JUST fashion or a NICHE.


I am emotions, and fickleness, and political views and relationships, and inspiration, and spirituality and love and hate, and mistakes and sexuality and then I swing all the way back to being just a simple prude, whew!  I am 3 dimensional.  I have so many views I can't possibly fit into the 3 areas that I ridiculously have been trying to bend and merge into.  That is no one's fault at all, but mine.

 That was the goal the focus of this blog.  I wanted to welcome new experiences and trips, heartfelt situations and LIFE and share with all that no you are not the only one that enjoys eating rice with melted butter and a drizzle of apple sauce on the side!  I want to share areas that I have no degree in but have successfully mastered like adolescence and motherhood.  I want to wrap a cyber hug around you and make you feel warm and cozy and shout out YES your stupid boss is stupid but YOU MUST PAY YOUR bill's.  I want you to laugh at my failed cake attempts and get your advice on how I should handle a visitor that has extended their visit a few month's too long.

So as we rejoice over the holiday's and the upcoming closing of this year don't be surprised of the possible conversations that may arise.  I hope that it will be as interesting as your favorite magazine, as welcoming as southern hospitality and as real as the reality that you encounter everyday.  Remember be encouraged, and be inspired to be you.  After all no one else can do it like you can! Muah

One End Is a New Beginning

Amazingly the year is coming to a fast yet subtle end.  The drama of yesterday has subsided, the worries of today have calmed and although I didn't exactly conquer the world I'm pleased with the events that have unfolded throughout the year.

I tried almost everything that I wanted to.  I failed more than I succeeded.  I embraced my talents and found new ones yet through it all I am genuinely pleased with what has unfolded.  Now I want to take these last few day's, weeks, hours to reflect.  Give inventory on how I WILL improve.  How my next move will be my best move. 

However, like a relationship that must have it's proper closure I will remain loyal and focus to give careful thoughts and attention to the days that remain.  After all the end is only the beginning to our next chapter.
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It's not that hard!

Sweet simple and to the point.  That's how my natural hair routine IS!  I haven't become a product junkie, the economy won't allow that.  I don't think that just because it works for you and we were born on the same day that it will definitely work for me.  My initial day's of my journey were exciting and I was intrigued by the variety of curls and kinks that my sisters in the journey possessed.  However, I made up my mind that I was not going to allow this journey to over take me.  So with that being MY case, I have had the pleasure of having great hair days and dastardly day's.  Days that a hat was all that would tame my mane and days that my curls gave plenty whiplash.  I know that many say it's hard and many say it's a cake walk but in the end it's what do you say!  I say it's not that hard. 

Find your groove, find your lane!  Master that hairstyle and wear it well.  Find that product and make it work for YOU (Whether it's 100% natural or not...after all you don't seem to mind all the by products that you are consuming IE, Mickey D's I'm just saying)  so be the leader of YOUR strands take them by the palm and demand them to listen and let them know it's not that HARD.

Don't Beat yourself up....There's alway's Tomorrow

I was sitting and thinking.  Before I even realized it I was here!  Yup, you're here with me.  You're at the end of  the just a minute, the i need an hour, a day, a month heck, almost a year and here WE are again! Where, what, when, why, did I, didn't I or should I have.  How did I get here.... Sigh, exhale and yet we're puzzled and here. 

Now if your thinking What the **** was that first paragraph about then to you I say congratulations on defining where and what you wanted to do and pursuing it.  This article is most likely not for you.  However, if that paragraph engulf who and where you are right now, I want and NEED you to know that you are not alone.  I also want you to know that it's not to late!

"We only have 60 more day's to complete that vision that goal, that degree, find the right (blank) or get out of this situation!"  To you I say stop!  Stop putting yourself in a time box.  Goals are important but life sometimes happens.  Sometime inevitable circumstances and events demand our attention.  Sometime a moment just to go with the flow takes us into a longer phase than intended and that's okay.

So, stop right now and let's do an inventory check.  Let's evaluate where WE are.  *Breathe! Yes the year will soon be changing but guess what, from this day forward you still have 365 days to get it right and today, right now is day 1!  There's no step program, there's no purging of issues it's just as simple as making up your mind.  Allow today to be just that, today.  Build for tomorrow and enjoy your progress step by step.  Figure out what is mandatory and build from that point.  While your focused look in the mirror smile and release yourself,  because after all there is always tomorrow.

Natural Hair...Elegant?

As my hair anniversary and birthday approach, I asked myself, "Can natural hair be grown and sexy?"  I mean it's big, it's ecclectic, and it's is definately fierce.  But is it sexy?  Is it exotic? does it lure or captivate your husband, fiance or boyfriend's eye?  I know your thinking, "it's how you carry yourself or your thinking it's the confidence that you exude through the individual."  But can we be real, for real, for real?  Is our hair sexy and if so which hair styles exemplify the look of sophistication, the look of a renasance classic.  Which look screams black tie event or all white party?

I may be coming off or seeming as if I don't believe that our gorgeous, coily, volumized locs can display itself as sophisticated, vibrant young and sexy but that couldn't be further from the truth.  From the tappered fade all the way to the pinned up loc I know that our hair has the amazing ability to lend itself to mandating attention by passer bys to admire every curl tossed all the way to bone straight silence. 

My question is "Are we displaying this side of our natural hair."  Have we been conditioned to think that because we are natural that we have to ALWAY'S display our hair in it's natural state.  I challenge US.  We have accepted our hair for the glory of how it grows, now let's have fun and shut the nay sayer's mouth's.  Let's show them natural IS sexy sophisticated and we wouldn't have any other way.  The next time that affair comes up flaunt your hair not, a wig, a weave or an extension but your hair in whatever form it decides to show it's "Diversity"

Must Haves for Naturals

Okay I won't go on with a huge introduction I'm just going to make a list of great items to have for natural or just healthy hair.  No reason, no purpose just a grocery list of products.  Later if I remember I'll list the benefits.  Here goes.

An excellent Moisturizing conditioner.  My favorite, Herbal Essence Totally Twisted
Leave in conditioners
Olive Oil
Shea Butter
Gel. My favorite, Eco Styler Gel
Baking Soda
Flax Seed
Water

Bobby Pins
Hair Pins
Soft Brushes
Wide tooth comb

Head bands
Hair accessories
Satin bonnet
Spray bottle
plastic containers
Detangler

These are the basic things that have allowed my hair to thrive I hope they do the same for you.