Don't Beat yourself up....There's alway's Tomorrow

I was sitting and thinking.  Before I even realized it I was here!  Yup, you're here with me.  You're at the end of  the just a minute, the i need an hour, a day, a month heck, almost a year and here WE are again! Where, what, when, why, did I, didn't I or should I have.  How did I get here.... Sigh, exhale and yet we're puzzled and here. 

Now if your thinking What the **** was that first paragraph about then to you I say congratulations on defining where and what you wanted to do and pursuing it.  This article is most likely not for you.  However, if that paragraph engulf who and where you are right now, I want and NEED you to know that you are not alone.  I also want you to know that it's not to late!

"We only have 60 more day's to complete that vision that goal, that degree, find the right (blank) or get out of this situation!"  To you I say stop!  Stop putting yourself in a time box.  Goals are important but life sometimes happens.  Sometime inevitable circumstances and events demand our attention.  Sometime a moment just to go with the flow takes us into a longer phase than intended and that's okay.

So, stop right now and let's do an inventory check.  Let's evaluate where WE are.  *Breathe! Yes the year will soon be changing but guess what, from this day forward you still have 365 days to get it right and today, right now is day 1!  There's no step program, there's no purging of issues it's just as simple as making up your mind.  Allow today to be just that, today.  Build for tomorrow and enjoy your progress step by step.  Figure out what is mandatory and build from that point.  While your focused look in the mirror smile and release yourself,  because after all there is always tomorrow.

Natural Hair...Elegant?

As my hair anniversary and birthday approach, I asked myself, "Can natural hair be grown and sexy?"  I mean it's big, it's ecclectic, and it's is definately fierce.  But is it sexy?  Is it exotic? does it lure or captivate your husband, fiance or boyfriend's eye?  I know your thinking, "it's how you carry yourself or your thinking it's the confidence that you exude through the individual."  But can we be real, for real, for real?  Is our hair sexy and if so which hair styles exemplify the look of sophistication, the look of a renasance classic.  Which look screams black tie event or all white party?

I may be coming off or seeming as if I don't believe that our gorgeous, coily, volumized locs can display itself as sophisticated, vibrant young and sexy but that couldn't be further from the truth.  From the tappered fade all the way to the pinned up loc I know that our hair has the amazing ability to lend itself to mandating attention by passer bys to admire every curl tossed all the way to bone straight silence. 

My question is "Are we displaying this side of our natural hair."  Have we been conditioned to think that because we are natural that we have to ALWAY'S display our hair in it's natural state.  I challenge US.  We have accepted our hair for the glory of how it grows, now let's have fun and shut the nay sayer's mouth's.  Let's show them natural IS sexy sophisticated and we wouldn't have any other way.  The next time that affair comes up flaunt your hair not, a wig, a weave or an extension but your hair in whatever form it decides to show it's "Diversity"